claygurnz
09.18.16 | 5 is secretly quite depressing |
Ovrot
09.18.16 | jam more riffs
i could live in a box covered in trash and still be happy with riffs |
MistaCrave
09.18.16 | I'm sorry about your work situation dude, but besides that I know exactly how you feel |
Futures
09.18.16 | not this again. get help and keep it off sput |
MistaCrave
09.18.16 | yeah dude what futures said, don't bother wasting our time, we obviously don't give a shit about you lolol |
theBoneyKing
09.18.16 | Sorry to hear it man, not sure what to say but I hope things get better. :-] |
iloveyouall
09.18.16 | i recommend fuckin a bitch |
SandwichBubble
09.18.16 | "like being 24 and never having a girlfriend."
get a boyfriend and drink tea together. It's great.
Hope you feel better though: http://i.myniceprofile.com/1253/125374.gif |
Artuma
09.18.16 | feel you dude. go to study if you can, the important thing is to have a reason to get up from the bed every morning |
wwf
09.18.16 | I know that feel very well.
Sometimes things get better and sometimes they don't. I'm sure you're not worthless, but really there's not a whole lot that I can say to convince you that since I don't know you. Just know that you can always get help and that getting help isn't a sign of weakness. |
Drummerboy123
09.18.16 | This hits close to home for me. Going through a similar situation myself, feeling stuck in a rut where life feels like it's on hold.
"I beat myself up over things I shouldn't-like being 24 and never having a girlfriend."
Honestly you'd be surprised by how few people care about that kind of thing.
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Drummerboy123
09.18.16 | As the other guys have said though, you've got to have a drive. Whether that's volunteering or something else. I'm currently learning to drive cause I've put it off for too long. I'm a pretty socially anxious person so I've been putting myself in uncomfortable situations and have been quitting a lot of bad habits. |
MistaCrave
09.18.16 | I feel like the thing with depression though is that even if you have things to look forward to and to motivate you, you are to some degree incapable of feeling motivation |
Anthracks
09.18.16 | just get over it |
MistaCrave
09.18.16 | ^ yeah lol |
CaimanJesus
09.18.16 | get a job at like mcdonalds or some other minimum wage place |
Anthracks
09.18.16 | life is a precious gift and a blessing do something about it before you're 60 without ever having a girlfriend cause no one likes a downer |
Mystletainn
09.18.16 | There are lots of people your age going through similar situations it's really not that bad, it could be worse. It's all perspective try sniffing the flowers every now and then, the most important thing in life is not being in a relationship |
Lord(e)Po)))ts
09.18.16 | "life is a precious gift and a blessing do something about it before you're 60 without ever having a girlfriend cause no one likes a downer"
she's speaking from experience listen up |
porcupinetheater
09.18.16 | Oh boy another Sput therapy session! Have you checked the co-pay? |
miketunneyiscool123
09.18.16 | You got a friend in me claygurnz. |
Yuli
09.18.16 | Find something that makes u happy, but that is also good for u. It can be any sort of simple task, sometimes when I'm feeling depressed I watch an old TV show from my childhood. Make time for a friend-date w/ yourself, just like you would any other friend of yours :) |
miketunneyiscool123
09.18.16 | I'm always willing to chat mr. Clay! Shoutbox me if you wish, and when I'm on, I'll reply back or some other thing. |
LastEpic
09.18.16 | 1. Start working out, you don't need a gym or weights, YouTube will explain. Physical fitness will help you mentally, how you feel, confidence, more energy etc.
2. Pick up "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists" it will shatter your little world about what you think about social anxiety, attraction, etc.
3. Like everyone else pretty much said, you'll wake up and be 60 one day, what do you want to look back and say? I was too nervous to actually take a risk with my life? |
Deathconscious
09.18.16 | you gotta jam Grotesque, no wonder youre having trouble in life. |
Futures
09.18.16 | jack off more |
Mythodea
09.18.16 | The book LastEpic recommends you
http://www.datingmess.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/The-Game-by-Neil-Strauss.pdf |
ScuroFantasma
09.18.16 | Hope you feel better soon man |
InFlamesWeThrash666
09.18.16 | Get a pet |
Sinternet
09.18.16 | "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists"
is this some red pill kind of shit because if so i would highly reccommend not going anywhere near that stuff |
SAPoodle
09.18.16 | The last 3 tracks on Third Eye Blind make such an unbelievably depressing trilogy... that trilogy is probably my favourite "song" of all time |
UpwardSpiral
09.18.16 | Hit the gym [2] It helped me a lot feeling better.
You can read any of those books but in the end you still need to man up and approach women. And the hardest part is to keep doing it. |
claygurnz
09.18.16 | To be honest guys I made this list after drinking far too much last night. I have a tendency to do this a couple times a year. I'm not taking away from people who have serious depression I just felt I needed to get things off my chest.
I do hit the gym 3-4 times a week, although I've had back pain from overdoing it so I haven't been able to go to the gym or play football (soccer) for the last 10 days or so. Football and Gym are two things that take my mind off my current situation, so I think not be able to do them has made me kinda sad recently. Onwards and upwards though. |
smaugman
09.18.16 | get a boyfriend and drink tea together
boy that's a terrible advice |
smaugman
09.18.16 | like it's just that easy |
BallsDeep
09.18.16 | I can relate to a lot of this, just remember that eventually even the most (ostensibly) successful people will be buried and forgotten. I know that's probably not the most comforting way to look at it but it reminds me not to take life too seriously and to do whatever the fuck makes me happy so long as it doesn't stop others from doing the same. Life is what you make of it. |
AsleepInTheBack
09.18.16 | Exercise always helps yeah; whether its the gym, going running or some team sport, its all good. Eating healthily similarly helps.
In terms of the job situation, that sucks, but you haven't really given enough information to facilitate any sort of informed advice. Getting a crappy minimum wage job wouldn't be a bad thing, but if you've got any sort of qualifications go interview in a tonne of places and put yourself out there. Having volunteering work under your belt should help you get a job.
And the girl situation, idk, again put yourself out there. Also, despite some of the stigma attached to it and despite the fact I haven't tried it myself, I've heard from some buds of mine that dating websites can be a good way to put yourself out there and get practice with chatting to girls, being yourself and all that shit.
Anyway, all the best man. |
Cyberduck
09.18.16 | Sorry to hear about this, I can't give much advice but beware the PUA stuff posted here. It might contain its share of half-truths, but that also applies to countless other trends like functional food and alternative medicine, making itself appear just based on enough reason to make you buy into the near-wonder-cure message. Not great for people, who are out for a serious relationship imo.
Without knowing you in person, avoiding an unhealthy lifestlyle and seeking psychological/psychiatrical help is really about the only advice one can give. If you tend to addictive and compensation-seeking behaviour, this might be able to give some clues about what's going wrong as well. |
SwanSoup
09.19.16 | I can also relate a lot to this. It's hard when you feel insecure about yourself, and it's definitely something that's gonna be a challenge to fix, but it's definitely doable.
Attracting girls is, besides being at least average-looking, very much in your head. Which is the reason why i've had periods in my life where I've hooked up with 4 chicks in one week (a lot for me) but now is at a point in my life where I can't even find a single girl that wants to touch my dick. The difference is that now i'm hella depressed, insecure about myself, my looks, my everything. Depression is one hell of a thing, because it completely messes with your mind and makes everything seem so bad, even when it isn't.
Also love is a nervewracking thing when you're depressed, so I would maybe work out that part first before meeting something. When I met my first girlfriend I was pretty depressed (i was around 18), and to be honest, in hindsight I wasn't even in love with her, I was just in love with knowing that somebody wanted me in that way. Don't fall in that trap, find someone you really like first, and if it works, it works. Looking for love is always going to be hard, the only way to really find it is to put yourself out there.
Working out is said to work really well, i haven't tried it but I should since i'm starting to become a fat fuck.
I should preface this with saying that I am a 24, almost 25 year old male, and I suffer from general anxiety disorder, social anxiety, depression, BDD (body dysmorphic disorder) and a slew of different diseases like that. I am my worst enemy, because I can go from knowing that i'm good, thinking that I look good, that I have much to give to the world, to my friends, to loved ones, etc, to the next second falling so deep into a pit of despair, that I can't really see to the other side of it, and just feel like I am worthless, that I am nobody, that nobody will accept me for my looks, I won't make it far in life etc, shit that I know CAN be true, but if i fail in life, if i end up alone, if I don't succeed with my career goals, It's MY fault, me and my stupid fucking brain.
I know for a fact that my illnesses have in one way or another been the reason for why I haven't done more with my life. I work as a salesperson selling phones and contracts, even though I have public anxiety, and it's shit. Absolute shit. So right now i'm trying to realize that I need to stop caring what everyone else thinks, and that you need to at least TRY something, and realize that failing isn't the worst thing, because then you've at least tried, you're an experience richer, and that will promote personal growth.
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