Rolling Girl: When You Leave Home

Rolling Girl 02.03.23	What ails you, traveler? Recs are also always appreciated.
pizzamachine 02.03.23	Go with your gut :)
MarsKid 02.04.23	I was definitely in the same boat before and felt many of the same emotions. The short answer: exactly what Pizza said. Go with what YOU feels right. Don't think too much about outside influence. Rely on yourself and what you think puts yourself in the best situation to succeed and prosper. The long answer: to add my perspective, I recently graduated college, which officially meant (to me) "You are now an adult, go forth young man into the wilderness!" I felt pressured to leave home and get to a different area and carve out a life for myself. When the first opportunity came, I leapt at it. That turned out to be a very short-sighted moved on my part when, in reality, I could have stayed home with my parents longer and waited until I actually had a solid career. I only moved cities rather than states, but it definitely put a distance between myself and the people I cared about, which inevitably put a strain on my mental health. You don't "need" to leave the state (at least my friends are some hours away which isn't awful). And, regardless of where, it doesn't "need" to be now. Although if the situation at work is particularly stressful, I can imagine relocating would be more imperative. I guess what I'm trying to say is - Look before you leap. I didn't, and it messed me up. Now I'm in a good spot, but I could've been much more careful. - find something that works. You're worth it; don't settle, don't let a company use you. - End all be all, trust in yourself and do what makes you happy, safe, and able to live with as little stress as possible. - leaving doesn't mean disconnecting; the internet is a beautiful thing. Keep in touch with the homies! My two cents, not sure if there's any sense (heh) in that ramble but hope you are well and good luck going forward.
kevbogz 02.04.23	^ you'll gain invaluable experiences when u leave the safety net and i highly recommend a new city/state by urself, even if it's only temporary. before transferring and starting my masters, i moved in w/ my parents for a year and got into the bar business and ended up saving ~35k because i was paying $0 rent. if that's an option, i highly recommend taking advantage of it. or, if the place that ur at rn is decent rent, and ur workplace pays a decent amount where u can save $5-10k over a year, there's nothing wrong with putting ur life on hold for just a lil, saving, and just low cost car traveling across some states to find a cool spot. idk, my $.2. best of luck and grats on the huge milestone
Colton 02.04.23	come to my house and i’ll go to your house and you can be me and i’ll be you
Ryus 02.04.23	feel this. a few months ago i just moved a few hours away from the city where i lived in my life. now im planning a move across in the country in about a years time. cant believe it but super excited. u got this
Colton 02.04.23	i kinda wanna move to germany
Ryus 02.04.23	come to america to make money
JKing92 02.04.23	I totally get where you're coming from. I moved out of my parents' house in 2017, just weeks away from my 25th birthday, and I was very nervous. As crazy as it sometimes feels knowing that I don't even live in the same state as my parents anymore (they now live in Massachusetts, where they moved in 2021 after my father retired, while I live in Maine -- and I thought it was crazy in 2019 when I moved to a different county from them), in many ways, I am glad that I am capable of living on my own. It's not the fate I expected when I was fresh out of college. It may seem stressful at first, but you'll find your own way into it.
Colton 02.04.23	no way i’m moving to america
Ryus 02.04.23	ur loss 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Titan 02.04.23	[2]
Rolling Girl 02.04.23	Thanks everyone. Just reading these helps quite a bit. I appreciate the wisdom and the experiences. And I'm glad to hear that it seems to have worked out for all of you so far! And Mars, Kev, and Jking congrats on you all graduating too for sure. All things considered, I'm in a pretty good place compared to a lot of other people my age. I could move back in with my parents but I think I can manage without for now. So I can bide my time for a little while longer. And I definitely don't intend to go anywhere without making sure there is work first. This is also just been a period of me trying new things and searching for new experiences. But sometimes I feel like it's happening too slowly and others like I can't keep up. Living outside of the US would be nice for sure lmao. But I'm not thinking that far ahead yet.
Borracho 02.04.23	I left home when I was 15, and haven’t been back since. It’s terrifying and exciting and always starts clunky but you’re on the brink of the next chapter of your life. Congratulations!
Calc 02.04.23	yeah I left at 17. it won't feel like it at the time but you'll grow more in those first few years on your own than probably any other point in life unless you have a kid or something
unclereich 02.04.23	Just never move somewhere because of a girl or guy.
kevbogz 02.04.23	transferred from a relatively top institution to a shitter state school to get back together with an ex and we broke up 3 years later HEH
Colton 02.04.23	I mean at least you had those 3 years, could be worse
CugnoBrasso 02.04.23	I left at 17, came back at 28 and left again at 29. Wild ride, but you'll be fine. I've been in the US this summer, wild country, I loved it but I don't think I would ever want to live there (almost got shot at the Chicago Airport).
Ryus 02.04.23	classic america funnily enough i dont think ive ever seen a gun in real life. but my american experience is vvery different than that of most americans
ArsMoriendi 02.04.23	What state are you thinking of moving to
unclereich 02.05.23	I used to be a firearms dealer in the least gun friendly area in the US and much of the clientele had never seen a gun in person. Never seeing/handling a firearm isn’t really a unique thing here out on the west coast.
AsleepInTheBack 02.05.23	Honestly there’s value with staying with your folks if it’s an option in the short term whilst you find your feet. I didn’t - after post grad I immediately got a job on the other side of the country from my fam and friends (it’s England so not that far) and was a bitch, not just because of the distance, but also rent took all my money for the first 2 years until I actually got promoted into a decent role. If I’d had 8 months to stay with my folks, save up and then head out then in hindsight I would have taken it. That feeling of moving away is hard tho fr. The first 3ish months were big stress and tiring but you get used to it.
Rolling Girl 02.06.23	I was thinking mostly W / NW. Like Colorado or Oregon. Maybe N California too. But really I just want out of the midwest and near a good city. lol Maybe if I get lucky the housing market will crash again by the time I can actually find a good job. And omg I can't imagine moving out on my own at 15. Going to undergrad a couple hours away was stressful enough.
MarsKid 02.06.23	I've always wanted to head up that way! If I end up leaving my state though, figure I'll stick to a colder climate, I like winters.
Rolling Girl 02.11.23	Same! I want to see at least some snow in my future lol. Meanwhile all of my friends never want to deal with it again
MarsKid 02.11.23	I naturally have a high body temperature, anything down south reduces me to a puddle. No thanks lol
Rolling Girl 02.11.23	Lol the cold cuts right through me now. But I’ll still take it over moving south