AngelofDeath
04.05.11 | It's pretty important to me, not only for the music itself, but it also seems that those passionate about music beyond the spectrum of what gets radio airplay are generally interested other things I'm passionate about like art, cinema, literature, etc.
And if they like any of these albums, they're probably a keeper. |
Trebor.
04.05.11 | Its pretty important
But I'm a pretty desperate guy |
Josh D.
04.05.11 | I don't think it can be a deal breaker, as long as the bitch doesn't act like a fan base that drives me up a wall. |
dnor
04.05.11 | Music is a big part of my life, so for me, a musical connection is a huge plus. Then again, that's just me personally. To each their own, honestly... |
Satellite
04.05.11 | not a dealbreaker necessarily, but i'm generally more attracted to girls with good artistic tastes. |
Jebull
04.05.11 | It definitely doesn't hurt :D |
dnor
04.05.11 | I actually found it attractive that my ex fiancé wanted to learn to like my music...nothing hotter than having your gf ask you to put dangers on a cd for the car ride when we took trips lol |
AngelofDeath
04.05.11 | I have pretty broad tastes, so I find a common denominator with wide variety of chicks. If you like Soulja Boy, Justin Beiber, or Brokencyde I'll probably just get up and leave, though. |
psykonaut
04.05.11 | dude...this list is awesome. i agree with all these bros up here^^^, it's not a dealbreaker unless she's like a bieber fanatic but good artistic taste is definitely important to me. my last girlfriend liked folk and psychedelic rock mostly, which is godly compared to most girls' tastes |
37er00
04.05.11 | sweet list |
North0House2
04.05.11 | It's great if you can find a girl that either can tolerate, or even like, your same tastes in music... But, I've found that it's rare.
I've never dated a girl who's liked the music that I like. Needless to say, none of those relationships worked out haha, but music was never really an issue.
I have started to notice, however, that the more developed a person's musical taste is, the smarter they are... not always, but it seems to go that way. |
Trebor.
04.05.11 | If she shits with the door open, that's a deal breaker
Music is important though |
foreverendeared
04.05.11 | "It's pretty important to me, not only for the music itself, but it also seems that those passionate about music beyond the spectrum of what gets radio airplay are generally interested other things I'm passionate about like art, cinema, literature, etc."
THIS. I agree 100% and it's not necessary that she like the exact same artists as me, but that she is passionate about music beyond what's popular, and that she has an open mind to different genres. |
whywontyoudie
04.05.11 | my last girlfriend's favorite bands were adtr, breathe carolina, and that entire scene. no wonder it didn't last for shit. |
bloc
04.05.11 | Not important at all |
LepreCon
04.05.11 | No woman I've ever gone out with has had what I would call a good taste in music so it's never been hugely important, though I have gotten them into some bands that I like.. Some did like a few good bands already but in that case it was either just the particular band's hits or judging by the rest of their taste, purely accidental that they'd like such a good band amongst all the shite. |
Trebor.
04.05.11 | Its very important for a long term relationship, but not so much for a fling
I mean you can't marry someone who likes ADTR |
dixoncocks
04.05.11 | Metal chicks are gross |
North0House2
04.05.11 | Last girl I dated likes Justin Bieber. Well, she was annoying, to say the least.
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whywontyoudie
04.05.11 | oh god metal girls are disgusting. |
pmmets07
04.05.11 | "I actually found it attractive that my ex fiancé wanted to learn to like my music"
i agree. the girl i like downloaded a bunch of full albums from mediafire after i gave her a mix CD. i was so impressed. |
North0House2
04.05.11 | oh god metal girls are disgusting.[2]
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LepreCon
04.05.11 | Metal chicks can be hot when they aren't fat and ugly like they usually are |
MO
04.05.11 | yea definately not important, unless they're into stupid scene shit...in which case you'd have to ask yourself what the fuck am I doing with her |
dnor
04.05.11 | A penis is a deal-breaker. |
acorncheese
04.05.11 | You'd have to be real dumb to let music taste get in the way of a relationship, even in its most casual stages. |
cvlts
04.05.11 | hardcore chicks are either scenester bitches or dykes... js. |
North0House2
04.05.11 | "yea definately not important, unless they're into stupid scene shit...in which case you'd have to ask yourself what the fuck am I doing with her"
Well, scene girls can actually be kinda attractive. If it's not over the top, of course. |
foreverendeared
04.05.11 | "You'd have to be real dumb to let music taste get in the way of a relationship, even in its most casual stages."
fucking why? I person's taste in music can be just as annoying as a really disgusting habit. |
SlightlyEpic
04.05.11 | if music taste was a deal-breaker i'd probably be single all my life
beggars can't be choosers |
AngelofDeath
04.05.11 | I've seen/dated some smokin' metal chicks. They're not all trolls like some would have you believe. Just most. |
Crysis
04.05.11 | It's pretty important for me. Music is part of my personality so if I'm with someone whose taste is radically different there is a huge gap right from the get-go. I mean, they don't have to love what I listen to but at least tolerate/respect it. |
Adabelle
04.05.11 | How can you have the time to add 100 albums to this list for no apparent reason? |
Hocmat
04.05.11 | Not a deal breaker but musical connection is damn awesome. |
ShadowRemains
04.05.11 | nice list, yes, it helps quite a bit, but not a total dealbreaker |
foreverendeared
04.05.11 | "How can you have the time to add 100 albums to this list for no apparent reason?"
Because he's awesome and wants people to check out these great albums if they haven't yet? |
dnor
04.05.11 | How can you have the time to post a useless comment on a list with 100 albums for no apparent reason |
Hocmat
04.05.11 | Now that I think of it again I have never dated a girl who was obsessed with pop music because that is repulsive to me. |
CrisStyles
04.05.11 | Doesn't hurt but definitely not important. |
North0House2
04.05.11 | I guess Colorado is just a musical waste land... I can't find one single girl who doesn't listen to absolute crap. |
Sowing
04.05.11 | i like to be able to talk about music and i like a girl that appreciates the romantic songs i pick out for her
but im not sure it is important enough to even be considered a dealbreaker. there is always something more important that serves as a tie breaker before music... |
whywontyoudie
04.05.11 | 100 is The HEAT Death of the Universe, check that shit out now. |
Trebor.
04.05.11 | My aunt lives in Colorado, and she likes awesome music |
Samshine
04.05.11 | Hmm.. I'm kinda 50/50 with this question. No matter who you're with, you're going to find differences between the two of you.. it's just how things are. If the guy i'm into has an awesome personality and shares other interests with me other than music, then i'd suppose it would be fine. I tend to find that when you're with someone for a period of time tho, you acquire their tastes and kinda pick up on things that they do.. So in a sense, perhaps you would obtain this trait?
Although, on the other hand..If he picked me up and A7X or Disturbed or some shit was cranked.. Yeah, no. Besides, It's really nice to have a guy there to talk to about the latest album you're into, exchange thoughts etc. (Other than you guys of course!) Or to be just lying there, listening to an album both of you are into... It makes it that much better. So i guess in a sense, musical taste does matter for me. |
kingjulian
04.05.11 | My gf likes awesome music (lots of post rock) so I scored there. It is a definite plus. My ex and I shared practically no musical tastes but we still had a pretty good relationship, though that was like two and a half years ago so we weren't nearly as serious. |
North0House2
04.05.11 | "My aunt lives in Colorado, and she likes awesome music"
Lol. |
ButcheredChildren
04.05.11 | oh god metal girls are disgusting.[666]
I could not agree more. |
Samshine
04.05.11 | I'm scared metal girls will beat me up ): |
ButcheredChildren
04.05.11 | Metal chicks could beat ME up. |
jayfatha
04.06.11 | "Oh god metal girls are disgusting"
I've got myself a metal girl and she's fucking awesome.
Doesn't hurt but definately not important [2] |
whywontyoudie
04.06.11 | metal girls could molest me and i could do nothing about it. |
Crimson Death
04.06.11 | Music taste really isn't an issue because you can slap the shit out of women and force them to listen to good music. |
Josh D.
04.06.11 | I'd touch her for 30 seconds. |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | Never made a difference to me. Personality, a sense of humour and nice boobs are all that matters. |
climactic
04.06.11 | not a deal-breaker at all, can only help really. however if a girl likes justin bieber or something she's most likely an idiot, but it would be that part that's the dealbreaker, not the biebz part |
AnotherBrick
04.06.11 | I'm in a relationship where my girlfriend doesn't appreciate any forms of music. She'll listen to the radio when she drives but that's about it. Been with her since before my music taste really took off, but if we ever broke up (which i really dont see happening) then music taste would be very important in the next person I look for. |
SHAKEandBAKE
04.06.11 | Hell no |
AndManyMore
04.06.11 | my friend once said that he kinda prefers a girl that doesn't have the same music taste because its something he can do on his own. something to have to himself when he needs some time away. |
AndManyMore
04.06.11 | but it makes the chick alot more attractive to me to have the same taste in music. |
North0House2
04.06.11 | Well, I'm really opposite on what I listen to. For example, I listen to a lot of post-hardcore/hardcore music. However, my lifestyle doesn't really reflect that at all. If I found a girl that liked hardcore like me, she'd most likely be a totally different personality. Same goes for black metal... and any type of metal really.
I look like the kinda kid that'd just listen to some indie stuff. |
NigelH
04.06.11 | Definitely a deal-breaker for me. If I find out she worships top-40....it ain't worth my time. |
Mewcopa0
04.06.11 | 2,9,32 |
North0House2
04.06.11 | Agreed on that.
Man, if I found a girl that liked post-rock, I'd be sold. |
KinkyFresh
04.06.11 | yes because personal taste reflects a person's personality. if they will only listen to mainstream crap, they probably are boring/ lack depth. |
North0House2
04.06.11 | Definitely.
I dated a girl a year or so ago who said Stars of the Lid was," Sucky space out music for druggies."
Lost my respect for her. |
ARuinedEmpire
04.06.11 | After my last relationship failed I vowed I'd only date girls with a few certain qualities, one being great music taste. I also haven't had a relationship in 3 years though. |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | "yes because personal taste reflects a person's personality. if they will only listen to mainstream crap, they probably are boring/ lack depth."
Liking underground music isn't a prerequisite for emotional and intellectual depth. |
iFghtffyrdmns
04.06.11 | 35 is awesome.
I'd say no just cause I assume right from the get-go that they'll listen to shitty tunes and then accept that for what it is |
North0House2
04.06.11 | "Liking underground music isn't a prerequisite for emotional and intellectual depth."
True, but I've never met a shallow girl who likes good music. So, it depends. |
klap
04.06.11 | "yes because personal taste reflects a person's personality. if they will only listen to mainstream crap, they probably are boring/ lack depth."
comments like these are why the majority of the userbase doesn't get laid |
KinkyFresh
04.06.11 | i said if they will only listen to mainstream crap, not just if they only listen to mainstream crap. |
iFghtffyrdmns
04.06.11 | haha oh klap, such wisdom |
Aids
04.06.11 | not a deal breaker at all. If I girl I'm seeing/fucking has good taste in music, it's just the cherry on top. I don't think I'm snobby enough to not see someone because they don't like Thrice or something though, that'd just be pathetic. |
TheSpirit
04.06.11 | it doesn't matter at all |
KinkyFresh
04.06.11 | "comments like these are why the majority of the userbase doesn't get laid"
that must've taken you a lot of thought |
Aids
04.06.11 | ""yes because personal taste reflects a person's personality. if they will only listen to mainstream crap, they probably are boring/ lack depth."
Liking underground music isn't a prerequisite for emotional and intellectual depth"
lol come on Phlebas, of course it is. don't be silly. |
Uranium
04.06.11 | i like attractive dimwit females who typically enjoy radio pop crap. sometimes you just got to say fuck it. |
klap
04.06.11 | no thought at all, it was pretty obvious? |
ziroth
04.06.11 | depends on how open or closed minded she is i suppose. i like a girl who'll take my recs seriously.
my gf saw the Bieber movie... i just laughed at her - it's not a big deal. she'll listen to whatever i recommend to her and i think she's awesome for it. |
Aids
04.06.11 | anyone who actually thinks musical taste is a deal breaker needs to sort out their priorities. most sexy girls have fucking horrible taste in music anyway. only fat, smelly, ugly whores like the same music that I do. |
iFghtffyrdmns
04.06.11 | only fat, smelly, ugly whores like the same music that I do [2] |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | No, it doesn't depend at all. Just because you've never met a girl you consider to be shallow who happens to like the music you think is good, it doesn't mean that women have to like that type of music, or music at all to be 'deep'. I've known plenty of women and girls who liked nothing but cheesy pop, or just treated music like background noise. Most were well read, intelligent, funny, interesting people, interested in everything from history and politics to science and literature. You only like the music you like because of the conditions of your life, not because you're somehow better than pop fans. |
cvlts
04.06.11 | I think it's safe to say that it's impossible to find a nice christian hipster girl who worships mliw and cursed as much as i do. js |
Uranium
04.06.11 | this is the only deal breaker
http://www.metalsucks.net/2011/02/16/this-is-why-i-always-tell-women-i-listen-to-metal-on-the-first-date/ |
North0House2
04.06.11 | "I think it's safe to say that it's impossible to find a nice christian hipster girl who worships mliw and cursed as much as i do. js"
Pretty sure that doesn't exist... Sadly, lol, cuz I'm kinda in the same boat. Except I need to replace Christian with Messianic, which limits the selection even further lol. |
AngelofDeath
04.06.11 | I have such a deeper appreciation for girls that can manage to turn me onto stuff I haven't heard. A lot of the indie I've
checked out has actually been moreso due to girlfriends and flings than Sputnik.
As far as taking the time to fill in 100 albums, it's just fun and not that hard/time-consuming. And they're all pretty good
albums. Can't believe I entered in the Off Minor album wrong, though. |
Jash
04.06.11 | Epic list man.
I lucked out, my girlfriend loves basically everything I love and she's the most knowledgable person I know (other than Deviant.) about dubstep and drum & bass. |
Deviant.
04.06.11 | "Not a deal breaker but musical connection is damn awesome. "
I agree with this. I've been lucky enough to have always been able to share most of my music tastes with all of my girlfriends, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't allow my tastes to get in the way of a good thing |
Aids
04.06.11 | or you could tell your parents to fuck off and just get with someone based on their personality and
not their religion
unless that's your personal choice, then nevermind, there's no hope for you.
(edit @ northouse) |
balcaen
04.06.11 | definite deal-breaker, listening/talking about music together is a mandatory activity to have done by the 3rd date. it's really attractive when a dude can rec me something new every week, and is well-rounded enough in taste as to respect what i like even if they think it sucks. though as a chick it's a lot easier to find guys with good taste in music... but for every cunt who worships top 4, there's a dude out there who thinks he's really hardcore for liking ADTR.
oh god metal girls are disgusting.[2]
troof. even the hot metal girls i've met ALL have daddy issues.
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YetAnotherBrick
04.06.11 | woah. awesome list. |
Slum
04.06.11 | Not a deal breaker at all |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | Some metal girls are well nice. Goth girls especially. |
Deviant.
04.06.11 | Just avoid the industrial crowd |
kitsch
04.06.11 | if something like musical taste factors into your compatibility then youre too immature to be in a romantic relationship. |
PuddlesPuddles
04.06.11 | I've influenced every girl I've dated towards my type of music where they genuinely come to love it, so no.
Plus if I don't like a song, I take something away from it anyway like how it was engineered and learn from it |
AnotherBrick
04.06.11 | Gotta love living in Iowa. Country country country country Adam Lambert country country Black Eyed Peas country country.
Welcome to our music scene |
balcaen
04.06.11 | deal-breaker is a strong word, i guess. it's not that it's the first priority, it's just that it's the first thing i look for by habit. i've never met anyone with (by my personal standards) good taste in music who wasn't caring, funny, trustworthy, intelligent, etc awesome shit. gnomesayin'? |
kitsch
04.06.11 | the key is to like all kinds of music so that it doesnt matter
disclaimer: never dated someone that exclusively listened to top 40 tho
but i think thats just a coincidence
or maybe people that do that just aren't intellectual enough for me to be attracted to them. |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | I don't understand how people can just lump all mainstream stuff into the 'shit' pile. Some of the greatest music ever made has been mainstream. The Beatles for a start... |
kitsch
04.06.11 | *some*
name one top 40 artist in the last 5 years that has an ounce of artistic integrity |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | Top 40 in what country? |
balcaen
04.06.11 | @ConsiderPhlebas if anything, it's a turn-off when someone refuses to acknowledge that music being mainstream does not necessarily mean it is bad. at all. |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | Ok, Itunes chart today... number one album: Adele 21
Not the greatest artist of all time, but more than an ounce of artistic integrity. I'm sure the thousands of artists that have hit top 40 in the last five years would produce even better. |
kitsch
04.06.11 | america, duh, the only country that counts ;p
its kind of ignorant to unilaterally declare it shit, but idc |
PuddlesPuddles
04.06.11 | Mohn Jayer |
kitsch
04.06.11 | sarah mcglocklan scissor sister |
Masochist
04.06.11 | Foo Fighters
Red Hot Chili Peppers
System of a Down
Deftones
Lupe Fiasco
Kanye West
Arcade Fire (who won "Grammy Of the Year," and is therefore considered mainstream in my book)
Dream Theater (whose last album made it to #6 on the Billboard charts)
MGMT
Daft Punk
Deadmau5
...Keep going? |
PuddlesPuddles
04.06.11 | Dustin Beaver
and take out MGMT and we're cool |
NigelH
04.06.11 | Top 40 artists with an ounce of artistic integrity: Kanye, Kid Cudi.....yeah that's about all I got. |
Masochist
04.06.11 | (Though maybe those last three aren't really top 40?)
Oh, and Muse. Maybe I'm the only one who thinks they're still relevant, but I do. |
balcaen
04.06.11 | who the fuck is arcade fire? |
NigelH
04.06.11 | Masochist.....the category was Top 40 not "mainstream". |
PuddlesPuddles
04.06.11 | Fuck, take out MGMT and Deadmau5 while you're at it. There are 3 people I'd love to get famous, invite them out to eat and sock them in the fucking mouth |
kitsch
04.06.11 | Foo Fighters
Red Hot Chili Peppers
System of a Down
Deftones
Lupe Fiasco
Kanye West
Arcade Fire (who won "Grammy Of the Year," and is therefore considered mainstream in my book)
Dream Theater (whose last album made it to #6 on the Billboard charts)
MGMT
Daft Punk
Deadmau5
lolololololol hey i think you stole my cookie cutter |
Deviant.
04.06.11 | "Masochist.....the category was Top 40 not "mainstream"."
Uh.... |
Deviant.
04.06.11 | "Fuck, take out MGMT and Deadmau5 while you're at it. There are 3 people I'd love to get famous, invite them out to eat and sock them in the fucking mouth"
The fuck is wrong with deadmau5? |
americanmusicmachine
04.06.11 | it's not what you like but what you're like as a person. |
Masochist
04.06.11 | All of them except the last three are Top 40, then. And maybe Daft Punk made it, not sure. |
UnnamedOcean
04.06.11 | Actually, out of my best relationships I'v had, all those girls had a pretty good taste in music. All
the shitty ones didn't like good music. Funny trend. Although only one girl has ever had a musical
taste remotely like mine. If I looked for a girl with the same taste as me, I would be single the rest
of my life. |
kitsch
04.06.11 | rhcp is the only band on there worth a listen
1 band does not redeem top 40 |
Masochist
04.06.11 | And to answer the question...
No, not a deal breaker. But hell yeah, it's awesome when you guys can share music tastes. Especially for someone like me, for whom music is a HUGE part of who I am, it'd be pretty hard to not be able to share that part of me because my girl didn't appreciate what I listened to. |
Masochist
04.06.11 | "rhcp is the only band on there worth a listen
1 band does not redeem top 40"
You didn't say worth listening to, you said artistic integrity, and I think all of them have that. |
Relinquished
04.06.11 | i'm married to someone with similar taste in music so I'm set
used to be important to me until I grew up. |
Masochist
04.06.11 | (Well...maybe Lupe and Muse are questionable nowadays, but sometime in the past 5 years they did have it, so yeah). |
Aids
04.06.11 | you guys you can't be popular and be good at the same time, it's the law
obviously |
balcaen
04.06.11 | questioning artistic integrity is a moronic point. the real tragedy when someone's only into mainstream/top 40 is that they're settling for what's safe and approved for the masses. |
Masochist
04.06.11 | "the real tragedy when someone's only into mainstream/top 40 is that they're settling for what's safe and approved for the masses."
...Or they're just not that into music. It happens sometimes (just like with books). |
PuddlesPuddles
04.06.11 | The question is, if she weren't into biting your shoulders and slapping you in the face during, deal-breaker?
And the answer is yes |
ziroth
04.06.11 | "...Or they're just not that into music. It happens sometimes (just like with books)."
they're probably not that into music because they don't know what's out there, like i used to be |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | Queen, The Beatles, Johnny Cash, Pink Floyd, Elton John, Chemical Brothers, The Prodigy - all safe and approved by the masses. |
balcaen
04.06.11 | "...Or they're just not that into music. It happens sometimes (just like with books)."
people who don't read books fucking suck though, but lots of folks would say non-literacy a deal-breaker and you wouldn't call them immature. why should it be any different with music?
"The question is, if she weren't into biting your shoulders and slapping you in the face during, deal-breaker?"
HAAHHA WAT |
Relinquished
04.06.11 | I miss the 90's |
Aids
04.06.11 | andcas, your sarcasm detector is broken |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | What books do you have to read to not suck, balcaen? I want to fit into your new world order so badly. |
Relinquished
04.06.11 | oh and angel's list is sweet. soo many good albums here props for 99. |
balcaen
04.06.11 | "Queen, The Beatles, Johnny Cash, Pink Floyd, Elton John, Chemical Brothers, The Prodigy - all safe and approved by the masses."
you're naming artists who've had staying power after breaking into the mainstream, the same cannot be said for at least 90% of artists with a hit in the last 10 years (and beyond). |
ziroth
04.06.11 | we should start a book club; i'd love to be literate. |
Masochist
04.06.11 | "people who don't read books fucking suck though, but lots of folks would say non-literacy a deal-breaker and you wouldn't call them immature. why should it be any different with music?"
Because there are plenty of people who don't like to read books for pleasure, and it's perfectly fine.
But I didn't mean it that way, I meant that when they read, they read what's popular: Dan Brown, Harry Potter, Twilight. But it won't get much deeper than that for them...and that's not a deal breaker for a lot of people who really enjoy reading indie books or whatnot if they have a lot of other things in common. Why should it be any different with music? |
balcaen
04.06.11 | "What books do you have to read to not suck, balcaen? I want to fit into your new world order so badly."
it's not about WHAT books, it's about actually reading of your own free will (as opposed to being assigned a book for education purposes)... passively listening to mainstream music when you have the opportunity to actually delve into something that YOU will enjoy as an INDIVIDUAL is like being that person who has only read books that were studied in class. |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | I'm not arguing that popular artists are always good, just that they can be good, even if they're safe and approved of. The majority of chart stuff is shit, yeah, but people are saying that chart stuff is automatically shit. Pink Floyd are record holding chart sellers, so can't see the logic. Sorry. Even Shakespeare made his stuff deliberately populist, and he was kinda ok. |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | "it's not about WHAT books, it's about actually reading of your own free will (as opposed to being assigned a book for education purposes)... passively listening to mainstream music when you have the opportunity to actually delve into something that YOU will enjoy as an INDIVIDUAL is like being that person who has only read books that were studied in class."
There is no inherent worth in reading. I like to think I'm well-read (I'm certainly getting there), and I've always read for pleasure, but I know a lot of people who don't bother and still manage to lead full lives, with plenty of individuality. Same with the people I know/am related to who listen to music passively. Music is important to you, and much of the world, but not everyone. They can still forge their own individual character and way of life, even without strong feelings towards one element of human existence. |
alachlahol
04.06.11 | this was an excuse for angel to post another 100 album list |
balcaen
04.06.11 | it's a pretty good 100 list, though. i'm cool with it.
anyway, i would never people who don't read/listen to good music are horrible people, but is it so wrong not to date someone because you can't identify with their likes/dislikes? |
qwe3
04.06.11 | i suppose if there were two girls who differed in musical taste but were, in every respect, identical, I'd go for the one who liked better music.
but it's not like OMG U LIEK RADIOHEAD HAVE MY BABIES |
ConsiderPhlebas
04.06.11 | No, not in the slightest. Part of the reason I ended up with my gf is because we shared some ideas about music and art etc. I was just trying to say that a blanket response to people who don't listen to a certain type of music (ie good) was misguided. |
AngelofDeath
04.06.11 | "this was an excuse for angel to post another 100 album list"
Lol. You know me too well. |
newjunkaesthetic93
04.06.11 | YES! Unless she's really hot, then who cares if she listens to shit music? RETARD BABY 2012! |
alachlahol
04.06.11 | angel shoving the cock of musical knowledge up my shaven powdered baby ass |
AngelofDeath
04.06.11 | It's a tight fit, but it feels pretty good once it's in there. |
tuk
04.06.11 | My girlfriend listens to mewithoutYou, Elliott Smith, Peter Broderick, Trespassers William..., to only name a few. I can't complain in this regard. |
Emim
04.06.11 | "Not important at all"
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Not saying it wouldn't be nice to never have to hear Mumford and Sons rec'd again...but if it's a dealbreaker then you might have some priorities to straighten out. |
omnipanzer
04.06.11 | I always thought so but as it turned out, not so much. She still likes it when I throw together a compilation of new stuff for her but this stuff just isn't as important to her, that's all. |
Motiv3
04.06.11 | Not really that important to me , but it can help a lot. |
Banion
04.08.11 | Deal breaker. I'd like to say I could look past it, and for short term it works out just fine, but in all honesty if music is one of the most important things in your life and the music you listen to defines who you are (which it does me) and one person in the relationship listens to, loves and feels that Hedley lyrics apply perfectly to their life, while the other feels like they can relate to The Antlers or Brand New. Then there is obviously two very different outlooks on whats important in life. Music isn't just music, its something we listen to describe us. Of course, I'm sure it works out for some people. Just don't think in the long run it would for me. |
Trebor.
04.08.11 | That's a deal breaker ladies. |
Satellite
04.08.11 | "This premise is founded on the belief that the person you're talking with consciously knows why he appreciates those specific things or harbors those specific feelings. It's also predicated on the principle that you know why you like certain sounds or certain images, because that self-awareness is how we establish the internal relationship between a) what someone loves and b) who someone is."
- Chuck Klosterman
I pretty much agree with this 100%. It's cool to have common interests, but I don't think you can truly infer anything meaningful just by learning what sort of music/movies/tv shows someone is into. |
ziroth
04.08.11 | "It's cool to have common interests, but I don't think you can truly infer anything meaningful just by learning what sort of music/movies/tv shows someone is into."
I almost agree with this, but i don't think i could ever take someone who listens to Brokencyde or something in that vein seriously. I think if someone listens to really gross music like that seriously, it probably shows in their personality. Crappy pop like Bieber or what not is no big deal though, i honestly can't see that meaning anything. |
Banion
04.08.11 | Usually if someone listens to black eyed peas and party songs, or songs with lyrics only about girlfriends/boyfriends, thats usually what the person thinks about. I'm not saying its impossible but its usually hard to dig out another layer to the person. Compared to someone I meet who listens to bands with songs that have political or spiritual meanings, where we can have actual discussions that are not just about love or gossip. What our ears and eyes consume and what we chose for them to consume makes us who we are. Plus the best feeling ever is turning on your favorite album on a road trip with your boyfriend and knowing your both enjoying it. |
climactic
04.08.11 | http://tinychat.com/sputnik |
Satellite
04.08.11 | well that i agree with banion. and there are CERTAINLY exceptions to what i just said and i should have mentioned that. |
TheStefan
04.08.11 | i feel like one of the strongest aspects in my relationship is a mutual respect for the music we each listen to. i don't think it's a deal breaker, but it definitely helps to strengthen a relationship. |
bungy
04.08.11 | holy shit the music on this list rules. |
MO
04.08.11 | "I mean, they don't have to love what I listen to but at least tolerate/respect it"
This is my situation, my lady even comes to see my play shows, groupies rule. |
Banion
04.08.11 | People who listen to shitty music are more likely to watch shitty tv like Jersey Shore, and if I have to spend my Thursday night sitting around watching that fucking show, there is definitely something wrong with that relationship. |
foreverendeared
04.13.11 | "People who listen to shitty music are more likely to watch shitty tv"
That's a good point. |
AngelofDeath
05.06.11 | Sonic's comment made me lol so hard. |
DurzoBlint
05.06.11 | "I mean, they don't have to love what I listen to but at least tolerate/respect it"
Yup as long as she makes an attempt to listen to it or understand why music is so important I am fine with that, besides there is bound to be something she would like out of my collection... |
Vesper
05.06.11 | Way to resurrect your own thread with a month-late response, Angel, haha.
I don't think it's necessarily a deal-breaker - my last boyfriend pretty much only listened to The Beatles, gothic rock, and aggrotech/other cybergoth shit - but if you do meet someone whose music taste complements your own extremely well, it's pretty fucking awesome. And while I know it's possible for someone to be smart, well-rounded individuals while listening to mainstream music or not reading for pleasure, I much more likely to respect someone who discerns everything s/he intakes with intelligence, so I'm not going to waste my time on those who don't.
If music is really important to you, I think most people would want to be with someone who at least understands that. |
Gestapo
07.04.15 | if she doesn't like drake then that's a deal-breaker |
someguest
07.04.15 | depends if she's an A-cup or a C-cup |
Cygnatti
07.04.15 | probably yes. when i told my bf that not only do i not care for led zeppelin, i think that they're also kinda bad. he was like "ok wow rip my heart out why don't you?"
i felt bad. |
someguest
07.04.15 | I wish someone would tell me they didn't like the Who so I could reply with
WHO ARE YOU
I WANNA KNOW |
Calc
07.04.15 | if she listens to musicals in the car while I'm trying to make a phone call to her mother about getting plane tickets to see her extended family in DC because her dad hasn't see them in ages and wants me to meet them all and I hang up claiming the call dropped and now if she wants me to go she can make all the phone calls herself that's the girl for me. |
YakNips
07.04.15 | no |
Snake.
07.04.15 | "If she shits with the door open, that's a deal breaker"
why |
idontcareaboutthis
07.04.15 | mine listens to the voice and american idol winners as well as mainstream country so i'd say it's definitely not a deal-breaker. it's actually fun to sing along to if you have the right person |
someguest
07.04.15 | "it's actually fun dating an idiot"
- idontcareaboutthis (or my gf) |
Snake.
07.04.15 | like you already know that she shits anyway why is it so bad that she doesn't bother closing the door it's not like she shitting on the floor or on you jfc |
NorthernSkylark
07.04.15 | my best friend is oblivious to music, so nope. and relationship-wise if a girl doesn't like music that's cool as long as she's not a dumb-ass. girls that are into art are usually real cool and vulnerable felines |
idontcareaboutthis
07.04.15 | danielle bradbury has some good covers, fuck off |
someguest
07.04.15 | danielle dingleberry |
idontcareaboutthis
07.04.15 | lol i had that coming |
deathschool
07.04.15 | Ugh. I gotta get over this shit. Whenever a girl has a similar taste in music to me, I get waaaaaayyy to excited and completely fuck everything up. |
Calc
07.04.15 | based on musical taste? how does that happen? |
Snake.
07.04.15 | if she jams stuff like collective soul don't even bother she probably has like two daughters already |
NorthernSkylark
07.04.15 | but if she likes the new muse album i'd just say
your ass is mine now!! |
Cygnatti
07.04.15 | snake dude, that is a 4 year old trebor comment, i think it's best to leave it alone. |
someguest
07.04.15 | who knew Northern was Republican |
Snake.
07.04.15 | @Cyg thought it would be good for discussion honestly |
someguest
07.04.15 | The last girl I dated got off watching me poop. Every ass crackle, duck quack, squirt of brown ecstasy, and flaming foghorn sent smelly audible pulses from her poorly groomed brow to her abnormally large clitoris. |
NorthernSkylark
07.04.15 | no republicans over here so nobody |
NorthernSkylark
07.04.15 | right she did. russian mail order? |
someguest
07.04.15 | no standard shipping |
NorthernSkylark
07.04.15 | MALE ORDER* cool tho |
Calc
07.04.15 | "abnormally large clitoris."
you mean her penis? |
deathschool
07.04.15 | Well, I attempted to get things back on topic |
Tyler.
07.04.15 | Lol |
Relinquished
07.04.15 | way to ruin the thread |
someguest
07.04.15 | "you mean her penis?"
tomato, tomato |
Strider
07.04.15 | I'd say it's more about how much the person you're with is willing to learn than what they listen to at the time you're together. If she listens to radio pop, just because that's all she knows but is interested in discovering stuff with me, then it's fine. If she completely refuses, then I would have a problem |
deathschool
07.04.15 | Idk. Sup, six bby? |
deathschool
07.04.15 | I CAN CHANGE!!! |
someguest
07.04.15 | It's not you. It's me. |
someguest
07.04.15 | "If she completely refuses, then I would have a problem."
No means no you fuckin' prick! |
porcupinetheater
07.04.15 | Not at all, but at the same time, I can enjoy pretty much all genres, and I'm not particularly interested in exclusive relationships, so I think in regard to this question I'm kind of not particularly suited to answer. |